When we do reliability together so much becomes possible. But that means we also have to communicate a lot about what we've decided to hold together, how we are choosing to be reliable together. In her book, Polysecure, Jessica Fern describes the negotiation we can have in a relationship where we decide together if we are co-creating an attachment-based relationship where we explicitly rely on each other for attachment co-regulation. When we talk openly with each other about the extent to which we are relying on each other to sooth our nervous systems, we can make decisions with more freedom about how much and in what ways we want to spend time together and connect in other ways as well. And having this idea show up in this book has given a lot of people permission and awareness for having more of this kind of relationship conversation with people throughout their social world. What helps you talk openly about the ways you are doing reliability with other people?
[image description: Two smiling hearts face each other and together hold the word "Reliable" in bubble letters in their outstretched arms. Text reads: "We practice together with being reliable for ourselves and each other."]
#MindfulHearts retrospective.
On this day 2020.
On this day 2019.
On this day 2018.
Celebrating three years of daily cartoons.
On this day 2020.
On this day 2019.
On this day 2018.
Celebrating three years of daily cartoons.
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